My hubby and I have been experiencing some discomfort in intercourse lately and I wanted to see if you had any insight.
First I'll have to give you the background info.:
Before we had kids, sex was pretty difficult because I was so tight. It was always painful and I felt like my vagina just being stretched too far the entire time. Haha! Then after babies it was great! No intense stretching feelings anymore :)
Since Baby #3 I've been experiencing a lot of burning during intercourse. Not stretching pain, just burning.
We use organic coconut oil for lubricant. And it has been awesome for years! The best thing we've ever tried.
But it doesn't matter how much I apply, I still feel a burning sensation during intercourse.
And I have noticed that I am personally more dry while I'm nursing. But I seem waaaaaaaaaaaay more dry after this baby than with the other 2. All that to say--my hubs and I really want to have intercourse, but this burning sensation prevents it every time :( We still enjoy each other in many other ways, but we could use some help! Any thoughts?
K. Age 27, Married 6 Years, Georgia
Dear Burning Hot Sex,
I’m so glad that you asked! To answer you properly I need to ask a few questions:
1) How many weeks/months has it been since you had baby #3?
2) Did you allow enough time after birth for the birth canal to heal well?
3) Do you feel the burning sensation always (even when you are not having intercourse)? Or just during and after intercourse?
4) Do you have any other symptoms (i.e.: discharge, rash, etc.)?
I remember you saying that your hubby has sensitive skin so I would recommend an all natural, water based lubricant.
The coconut oil is great, but it does not have the same properties that will enable a smoother glide. The friction is what causes a lot of irritation for women. Below are a couple that you might be interested in trying, the first one has received many positive reviews.
Being dry while nursing is totally normal because your body is creating all of that extra fluid for baby. You need to increase your water intake while nursing to help combat dehydration/dryness.
General Hydration Recommendations for Nursing Mothers: Depending on your age, activity level, and health, you need between ½ and ¾ oz. of water per lb. of bodyweight. A simple way to figure out your hydration needs is to take your bodyweight and divide it by two. If you weigh 120 lbs., you should consume 64 oz. of fluid each day.
Hope this helps love! Blessing to you and yours!
xxo Roni ;-)
To answer your Q's:
1. Baby #3 was born in Sept...so we are about 7 months postpartum.
2. My hubby and I didn't resume intercourse until 6wks postpartum. I am assuming that is enough time to heal. I wasn't bleeding anymore, etc.
3. Burning only occurs during intercourse....then I continue to have the burning sensation for a few hours after intercourse.
4. No other symptoms ;)
And! I upped my water intake to about a gallon a day. And we tried a water based aloe lubricant to see if it helped. And it TOTALLY made the difference!! No burning during or after! Woooooohooooooo!!! Water is legit ;)
Thanks sooooooo much!