If you don’t have the hormone/chemical which creates that sexual desire, what can be done to increase it? Are there any foods or natural remedies available?
Dear Labido Lost,
Great question! You're not alone; all women experience changes in hormone levels that can create a temporary loss of desire. The hormone cycle is an interaction between the brain and body, it can be impacted by illness, stress, injury, emotional trauma, lifestyle choices and eating habits. Pregnancy and menopause more significantly affect a woman's hormone levels and her desire levels too. The remedy can vary depending on what season of life you are in, but some general suggestions can help:
#1. Spend time with Father God. Bring all your cares to Him. (Psalm 55:22) He created you and knows your inner most being. He loves you and wants the best life for you (including sex in marriage). He not only has the power to comfort you and give you wisdom, but He also has the power to heal you.
#2 Take and make time to care for your temple by exercising. Experts have proven that walking 30+ minutes per day can significantly improve a woman's desire for sex.
#3 Do Kegel exercises. They are proven to increase your pleasure levels during intercourse, and that will always leave you wanting more. There is a great Kegel App Trainer to assist you.
#4 Rest and relax. It made God’s “Top 10 List”.
#5 Take responsibility for your body and lack of sexual desire. Make learning about hormones, your body and ways to improve your desire a priority. You are worth it, and your husband is owed it! (1 Corinthians 7:5) A great resource for bedroom pleasure enhancements to include on your search is Bedroom Blessings
#6 Ask your doctor to test your hormone levels for an imbalance; Estrogen, Progesterone, and Testosterone. If there is an imbalance, ask about the various Hormone Replacement Therapies or prescription treatments available like L-Arginine amino acid cream and DHEA.
#7 Go natural and harness the power of "God's medicine cabinet," Natural Remedies and Essential Oils like Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, Clove & Patchouli. Please Note: If you have a medical condition, including but not limited to high blood pressure or respiratory problems and if you take any prescription medication, do not use essential oils without consulting your doctor.
#8 Eat Healthy, it makes a difference! Complex Carbohydrates (whole grains, oatmeal, dried beans and peas), Fruits (Figs, Black Raspberries, Strawberries, Watermelon, Avocados, Peaches) & Green Vegetables (Broccoli, Celery, Lettuce) Sweet Potatoes, Eggs, Almonds, Garlic, Cloves, Ginseng, Saffron, Ginger, Sesame Seeds, Salmon, Dark Chocolate, and Unsweetened Green Tea all have positive impacts on sexual desire. The opposite is true for alcohol, chocolate, caffeine, fats, sugars, oysters, processed baked goods, dairy, steak, and salt. In excess, they can decrease your libido.
#9 Eat Sexy. If you and your hubby love to share romantic dinners together, try Eat Something Sexy. They explore the pleasures of food and wine with the most extensive database of aphrodisiac foods.
#10 Indulge in some exotic blends that are proven to increase your libido. Some products that my clients have enjoyed are Sabadi "Sex" Organic Chocolate, Kusmi Tea "Sweet Love", Lulu's "Love Truffles", Republic of Tea "Get Passionate".
I can't wait to hear about your journey and rediscovery of your libido!
xxo Roni ;-)